|Mon May 27, 2013|
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|Sat Jun 08, 2013 @12:00PM - 04:00PM|
Advanced Refresher Training: Handling Intense Conflict Energy and Getting Unstuck in Mediations
|Sat Jun 15, 2013 @12:00PM - |
Community Mediation Maryland (CMM) provides Basic Mediation Training in the Inclusive Mediation Framework. As one of the 17 mediation centers in the state of Maryland under the umbrella organization, Community Mediation Maryland, the Washington County Community Mediation Center (WCCMC) also adopts and supports the Inclusive Mediation Framework. The Maryland Program for Mediator Excellence (MPME) has defined, in collaboration with trainers and mediators around Maryland, models of mediation currently used in Maryland. The Inclusive Model is defined below, along with MPME’s definition of mediation.
MPME’s Definition of Mediation
Mediation is a process for people in conflict which includes two or more participants and one or more mediators. The trained impartial mediators help people in conflict to communicate with one another, understand each other, and if possible, reach agreements that satisfy the participants’ needs. A mediator does not provide legal advice or recommend the terms of any agreements. Instead, the mediators help people reach their own agreements, rebuild their relationship, and if possible, find lasting solutions to their disputes. Mediation is a process that lets people speak for themselves and make their own decisions.
Inclusive Mediation Framework
The goal of inclusive mediation is to support the participants in having difficult conversations and to guide a problem solving process to develop solutions which meet everyone’s needs, with all content decisions made by the participants. In the Inclusive Framework, co-mediation is used.
Inclusive mediators do not set ground rules. Mediators focus on listening for values, feelings, and topics and reflect these back to the participants, checking to make sure that the participants feel the reflection is accurate. The mediators attempt to understand each participant, thus making it more possible for them to understand each other. Mediators follow a defined process which includes time for participants to share the situation, build clarity as to what is important, identify topics participants want to resolve, identify the goals each participant has for each topic, brainstorm options, consider each of the generated options in terms of which would meet all participants’ goals, and determine areas of agreement, if any.
Inclusive mediators rarely use caucuses or private sessions. They might do so in a situations where mediators need to check if mediation is a good fit for the conflict. If agreement is reached, it can be written by the mediator based on the direction of the participants, and it is reviewed and confirmed by all the participants in a mediation. In inclusive mediation, the mediators guide the process and the participants are in charge of whether agreement or any other outcome is reached.
If we divided mediator strategies into listening, reflecting, reframing, providing information, making suggestions, and persuading strategies, inclusive mediators would use listening to work on understanding, and reflecting and reframing in a way that matches the intensity participants express, with no providing information, making suggestions, or persuading strategies.
Mediation Process Overview:
Pre-Mediation:Mediators Check Physical Setting and Preparation
· Consider the nature of the dispute.
· Select furniture. Keep chairs balanced.
· Check entrances and exits. Familiarize your self with surroundings.
Step 1: Explain Mediation and Paperwork
· Thank participants and get names.
· Explain the process.
· Explain the BIG 3: Non-judgmental, Voluntary and Confidential.
· Housekeeping issues and time commitment.
Step 2: Listening and Information Gathering
· Ask participants to explain what brought them to mediation and begin reflective listening.
· Ask open-ended questions.
· Strategically listen for feelings and values to be reflected back and topics to be resolved.
Step 3: Framing and Listing Topics to be Resolved
· Clarify topics with participants.
· Write topics on easel paper in mutual/non-judgmental language.
Step 4: Brainstorming and Developing Solutions
· Have participants give ideas about what can be done to resolve each topic.
· Use creative problem-solving techniques for topics the participants get stuck on.
· Build consensus and find areas of agreement.
· Make sure participants think the agreement is realistic.
· Get specifics.
· Take notes for agreement writing.
Step 5: Write the Agreement
· Write down all agreements is participants want.
· Remember agreements should reflect the BIG 3: Non-judgmental, Confidential, Voluntary
· Ask participants to complete forms.
· Everyone signs. Destroy notes.
Step 6: Post-Mediation: Mediators Do Feedback, Close Down and Follow-up
· Give and receive honest respectful feedback from your co-mediator.
· Discuss questions for Program staff and make plans for returning the packet to the office.
· Fill out follow-up forms.